Day 5: Apologizing

I’m so pumped you’ve decided to come back!

Today is day 5 of our 30 day challenge, and it’s all about apologizing.

It’s going to be a deep kind of day, so get ready.

Saying we’re sorry is one of the hardest things we’ll ever have to do. Saying we’re sorry to ourselves is quite possibly the hardest thing we’ll ever have to do. 

When we do have this self-actualizing conversation we’re forced to be honest with ourselves in an uncomfortable way. This may be the very first time we’re truthful with ourselves, and it’s scary. Being honest means we’ll finally have to be aware of the hurt, harshness, and meanness we’ve treated ourselves with for so long, and usually don’t even think about.

We often say things to ourselves that we wouldn’t even think about saying to our worst enemy. This needs to stop immediately! 

We truly are our own biggest critic, but the thing is, it’s not serving us any kind of purpose, except to make us feel even more badly then we’re already made to feel from a lot of the world around us.

Additionally, we need to stop over apologizing for things that don’t need apologizing at all, which so many of us are beyond guilty of.

How often do you say you’re sorry for being confident? For being opinionated? For being yourself? For failing to due something that doesn’t have an affect on anyone, but yourself?

We’ve been conditioned to feel badly about doing so many things that we often end up saying we’re sorry as a reflex, which then detracts from our actual confidence. This is harmful, and not productive for our own well-beings, and the relationships with the people we care about the most.

We need to stop handing out apologies to so many people that aren’t deserving of them, and start building our own confidence up.


I want you to apologize to yourself. 

This is really really hard, uncomfortable, and will require you to be brutally honest with yourself.

It may take 5 minutes, or it may take a couple of hours, but regardless of how long it takes, do not skip this challenge, or half-ass it.

This may be the most important challenge of the 30 days, and is incredibly important to complete.

Write a letter to yourself. Make a video. Journal. Stand in the mirror and actually talk to yourself. Whatever works for you, just do it, and don’t judge it.


I want to make a note that I made this video over a year ago, but these are still things I’m working on, and I share my soul with you, so that you know you’re not alone in how you might feel.

Things will come up while you’re doing this that you didn’t expect to come up, just ride this apology wave, and let it flow. 

Remember you’re amazing, and should feel that way everyday, so stop beating yourself up. You’re doing your best, and if you truly don’t believe that then apologize to yourself for that, and let it go.

Change is happening, I promise, it just takes some time, gentleness, and love.

Trust me, I truly know how hard this is, but I also know you’re going to feel incredible at the end of these 30 days. Don’t forget to keep up with your other challenges. They’re just as important, require just a few minutes out of your day, and will continue to build you, and the people around you, up.

I’m proud of you!

Posted on January 4, 2017 .